Closure......a very tricky word that one. How is it that one achieves this closure in a relationship which has had lots of emotions attached to it. People always advice others how they should not stall their life and rue on what has been finished, but has it really been finished? Maybe it has physically but how does one put away feelings which have been developed over a period of time. How do we get on with life when the life we made has just been given the chop.
Time heals everything and somewhere down the line we do forget about certain things but do we forget the people involved? If I take into account my experience(s), I have to say that I have never really forgotten the person as somehow when you choose to be with someone you somehow get attached to that person and although over time you tend to forget things its just impossible to detach the person from the memories.
So coming back to closure and how to achieve it, well different people employ different methods and it can be pretty unconventional when it comes to it. Apparently from what I have read, Neyo (yes the singer...the one who sang "So Sick") got over his relationship by writing and singing songs. Now that to me is a bit bonkers, I mean getting things out from your system I get but actually moving on from a relationship by singing songs?? A bit crazy if you ask me. But then other people have their own ways the conventional ones being finding another girl/guy (although don't let it be a rebound one), having meaningless sex, cry your heart out (it does annoy people so be aware of it!!), get yourself busy doing lots of things so that you don't have time to think about it, go out and party or you could just give it some time and think of all the good memories which you came out with from that relationship. The last one can take ages and your emotions can be like a roller coaster but in the end you come out with a positive note.
Life has a pretty funny way of teaching us lessons and sometimes these can be pretty harsh but if we hang in there and don't do anything drastic (if you read the papers...the American news has all sorts of info on this) it is all good!!
So until we or I get to experience this thing called closure....I think I will just hang in there and wait for someone special to come!!